What is Masking? (And Why It Matters)

Masking is something many autistic people do—often without even realising it—to fit in or avoid being judged in a world that’s not always accepting of neurodivergence. It can mean copying facial expressions, forcing eye contact, hiding stims (like hand-flapping or repeating words), scripting conversations, or even changing how we speak, dress, or show emotions.

It happens at school, work, with friends, and even at home—anywhere someone might feel pressure to “blend in.”

While everyone adjusts a little in social situations, autistic masking is different. It often involves constant self-monitoring and hiding parts of who we are, which can be exhausting and lead to burnout, anxiety, identity struggles, or feeling disconnected from others.

People might mask to avoid bullying, discrimination, or being misunderstood. It’s especially common among autistic women, non-binary folks, and those diagnosed later in life.

Masking can also affect diagnosis—because if someone looks like they’re “coping,” their challenges might be overlooked. But being autistic isn’t about how someone looks or acts on the surface.

Understanding masking is important. It helps us support autistic people more compassionately, believe their experiences, and create safer spaces where they don’t feel the need to hide who they are.